Here’s how I kicked my post-college kid out of the house — and you can, too

 The Nabataeans settled in Petra, Jordan in the 2nd century BC, and were famous for building a desert city of unique pink-colored sandstone quarried from the local hills. Workers built dams, cisterns, and aqueducts to control water, allowing them to store it for long periods of drought.

Many examples of Hellenistic architecture exist in the city. The most important monument in Petra is the monastery, which is 148 feet in height and 160 feet in width. Al-Khazneh Treasury is the most elaborate building. Located at the narrow end of the Sieg Gorge, the structure contains hundreds of bullet holes planted by local Bedouin tribes, who believed the structure contained great wealth. Nearby is the theatre, set up so that visitors can see most of the tombs. Also nearby is the Petra Pool and Garden Complex, which consists of a large swimming pool, an island pavilion and a complex hydraulic system.

Several years ago, my eldest daughter completed her college education, while my other two children followed in her footsteps. This led to a strategic decision on my part. The urgency to encourage her to move out of the family home immediately after college and establish an independent financial life. We call this “exempting them from the payroll.”

Am I an incapable parent?

Am I a monster for thinking like this?

Or are these necessary steps that more parents should consider, instilling responsibility in their children by exposing them to the truths of the real world?

Like those of you who now own thriving businesses or hold executive positions, you remember the times when you had nothing, you only spent money to cover your bills. Were, driven by a determination to change your circumstances. Is it our duty to tell our children that struggle is mandatory to achieve success?

Do you believe that if you provide financial support indefinitely your children will eventually stop asking for more? They won't. Like government handouts, they will only ask for more until it becomes the expectation that you will always provide it. Dependence on reproduction is the exact opposite of helping your children become independent.

This underlines the urgency of either moving them faster towards independence or at least making them fiscally accountable.

Set specific deadlines for your children to ensure full-time employment and clear deadlines for them to find independent housing.

Give your child autonomy in deciding whether to look for a roommate and determine whether they will start their career with their dream job or a position that merely pays the bills.

Be firm. Communicate that the “safety net” of staying at home is coming to an end.

If they choose to stay at home, start paying the rent and assign them household responsibilities. (Even if you choose to save the rent money for them, the emphasis is still on fostering a sense of responsibility.)

Remember the challenges that your family had to face on their journey to the success they have achieved today.

Determine in advance whether and how you will help with bills (for example, auto insurance, mobile phone expenses) and set a deadline for when such assistance will end.

If you reassure your children that "Don't worry, if things don't work out, you can always return home," you can be certain that they will fight to do better than you which is part of the American dream. .

While every parent wants to help their children, constantly telling them "Plan B" will hinder their ability to forge their own path. We often do our best in life when we don't have a Plan B.

Those who have more than one child, rest assured that everyone is watching your actions keenly and keeping a close eye on their future.

In life, happiness means fulfillment or non-fulfillment of expectations. It is really a good thing to expose your children to the challenges of adversity, because these struggles will be the thing that will make you proud when they achieve significant success in life.

Expect conflicts, arguments and disagreements in your home. It's about the West Point way of leadership – the hardest right. In the long run, both your children and our nation will be better off by shaping and building a more resilient and stronger future generation.